It has been awhile since I last blogged.  This is my first blog without the pressure of an instructor's viewing eyes: therefore, I can write what I want and how I feel at this moment.
Does anyone out there get stressed about their teenagers?  I have a teenage son who is 15 years old.  He has ADHD.  When he is out wondering, I worry.  Why?  Because that's the way I am, I guess.  I want to know where he is at all times and he really doesn't like the idea of keeping Mom updated.  It drives me crazy. I will be slightly stressed until he walks through the door.  Do I trust him?  Yes... I have just experienced this small town life in this particular town a bit too long not to worry.  I will write more on that subject as I go along.

I'm DONE!!

I have just completed my last online class at Ashford.  I am thrilled...to say the least!!!  But, I'll be back at it in the fall when I begin my Master's studies.  I have enjoyed my time at Ashford and appreciate the opportunity.  Thank you to all the instructors and students who made my time here enjoyable and memorable.

Assisted-Suicide:  For or against?

  Thesis

     It was a sunny, but cold November morning, when lying in his hospital room doctors informed him he had inoperable, incurable cancer.  Along with the grim diagnosis came a prognosis of two to three months to live.  He not wishing to die in the hospital, had the family arrange for a hospital bed to be set-up in the living room of his house and bring him home to die.  Oxygen was brought in for emergency usage and a potty-chair was set-up next to his bed.  Within 5 weeks of bringing him home, he could no longer walk, talk or eat.  This fun loving, sensitive man, dazed and confused and ravaged by a disease that no longer allowed him to enjoy food and the company of loved ones, laid in a hospital bed waiting for nature to take it’s ugly course.  One-and a half weeks later, Jimmie slipped away.  A skeleton of the man he once was.

     Just six months earlier, his niece had to make the agonizing decision to put down her beloved dog, Brandi.  It was clear that Brandi’s organs were failing and in order to spare her pet the pain and suffering of dying a slow, painful death, she placed Brandi in her car and drove her to the veterinary hospital.  The vet calmly explained that euthanizing Brandi was the right decision, and that surely she wouldn’t want Brandi to suffer needlessly.  So, with only the pinch of a needle, Brandi was gone in less than 5 minutes.  A peaceful and humane end.
     “To die at one’s own hand, or to allow a disease to ravage the body until it is so diminished it ceases to continue is a topic being discussed with family and doctors all over the world.  This topic is so controversial that it often creates an undue rift between family members, the dying individual, God and state.  Why is the idea of assisted suicide such a hard topic to deal with?  After all, we feel compassion and love in order to aid our beloved pet to a peaceful death when they no longer have a viable, sustainable life.  Therefore, why is it necessary to subject a loved one to the brutality of a disease when a viable life no longer exists and death is certain?

     A known death is certain, and hastening of a known death is a far cry from an actual death by suicide.  Certain death simply means that death is impending; a matter of time.  This certain impending death is a death that no amount of medical or emotional intervention can stop.  And, to hasten a death is merely speeding up the already known ending.  On the other hand, suicide is a death yes, but a death brought about due to impulse and despair.  A death that medical and emotional intervention could have prevented had the person reached out for help.” (Lombard, Sept. 2009, p.2-3). 

Oral History Subject

     Imagine she is only nine and traveling by boat for weeks to reach her destination - The Land of the Free.  Once arriving in this new country, her first experience is a stop at Ellis Island, where she is marked with an REJ label and detained.  She is then separated from her Aunt and Uncle, who have been cleared.  She is made to sleep in a crowded room with many other women with only a single bulb hanging from the ceiling for light.  Once the morning comes, she is released to her Uncle and Aunt, who waited outside all night in the cold to take her to her new home.  This is Adina Cascheras introduction to the United States of America.

     Adina was born Adina Gianfelice on January 19, 1927 in Palata, Italy; a southern province of Campobasso (Lynch, 2010, July).  She grew up in a tight-knit family in which religion and family were the main focus.  Her parents, like most Italian families, raised her with very specific and old-fashioned ideas about acceptable behavior for young girls and boys (Barone, 2006, P. 19).  She was always surrounded by family, extended family, and friends; laughing, playing and attending church, which prompts Adina’s memory of people in Italy as much more kind, warm, affectionate and holding a high degree of respect for their elders; unlike in the United States, where people hold back unless they know you well.    She continued by saying that in the United States people do not acknowledge you with a hello. They stare right ahead.  However, in Italy, where everyone was considered the same--Italians, they would greet you with enthusiasm;   especially in church.

Dealing with employee issues in the work place…

As a department manager, conflict resolution is part of the job; and dealing with the conflict resolution in a professional and impartial manner is important to resolving an issue.  When an issue does arise, it is important to handle it quickly and efficiently.  However, prior to meeting with an employee, preparation on my part is of key importance to handling the situation at hand.

Currently, I have an employee of two years who is performing at a substandard level.  I have received numerous complaints from coworkers and customers in regards to this employee.  Unfortunately, this employee has also displayed confrontational behavior which has created a hostile work environment.  Therefore, as department manager it would be my responsibility to listen to the customers and coworkers concerns and address these issues with the employee named.

Prior to meeting with the employee I would prepare myself by using the imagined interaction technique, where I would think about what I might say and how the other would respond.  However, because no one can ever know how another will respond, I would “think about the interaction in an “if-then” kind of way:  If he says “x,” I will tell him “y”” (Cahn, Abigail, 2007).  This way, I would have more control of the situation.  I would also review all documentations of complaints to ensure that I have all information needed for the meeting in order to bring the employee up to standards.

Conflict and Communication:  A Personal Look

     In our daily lives we are involved in relationships be it at work, home, school or in general.  And, when dealing with these relationships, we come across individuals with different ideas, agendas, values, personal history and personalities than our own.  Because of these types of relationship differences, conflict often arises and throws off the balance of the relationship.  However, how we communicate when dealing with the conflict will largely depend on whether the outcome is positive or negative.  Thus, developing a best practice list to deal with conflict before it arises is a positive step in the right direction.

     Conflict is inevitable, and being aware of this and having a plan to be able to deal with a conflict should be the first step to conflict management.  When creating a plan, first and most important, is to understand that people have differences and one must learn to be “flexible, accepting, understanding and non-judgmental of the other person’s views, opinions or communication style” (Conner, 2009, p. 1), as often, one of the above is the root of communication difficulties.  Furthermore, in conflict management planning “the ability to take a meta-conflict perspective, where you can look back on the conflicts you have experienced, analyze what you did well and what you did poorly, and learn from your mistakes” (Cahn, Abigail, 2007) will further move one in a positive direction toward the understanding of conflict resolution.

     When a conflict situation does present itself, one must “adopt a mindset that embraces conflict as an opportunity while recognizing the risks involved in it” (Cahn, Abigail, 2007).  “Each individual needs to be responsible for his/her actions and maintain flexibility when dealing with the conflict.  Although this is a positive step in managing conflict, flexible communication does not mean the conflict itself will be settled” (Lombard, 2010, p. 2). 

Media Technology:  Online Newspapers

The Newspaper has been around since the early 17^th century, so it is hard to believe that the paper form of the newspaper is slowly being replaced by the online newspaper.  What began as posting past issues of printed newspapers online has now turned in to online current newspapers.  Today, there are online newspaper sites springing up onto the internet without ever having been in paper form.  One of the main reasons for this is that the public wants the news now and by going online, the information is available with just a few clicks.

Many of the new, solely online newspaper sites charge a subscribers fee, but at this time, most local online newspapers are free to read; however, I see this changing within the next few years. 

Personally, I like the paper newspaper better than reading online.  This is because I spend my entire day online and it is nice to get away from the monitor for awhile.  I don’t think the paper form of newspapers will go away any time soon, especially when the local online newspaper sites begin to charge for the privilege.  The online newspaper is geared toward young adults in their twenties and thirties.  As Jay Small states in his blog, “Print for older readers, online for rest” (http://jaysmall.com/old/blog/jay-small/2008/11/06/print-for-older-readers-online-for-rest).

History of American Newspapers. Retrieved online January 12, 2010 from

     http://journalism.wikia.com/wiki/History_of_American_Newspapers%2C_Part_1

JaySmallArchive (2009).  Print for older readers, online for rest.  Retrieved online January 12, 2010 from

     http://jaysmall.com/old/blog/jay-small/2008/11/06/print-for-older-readers-online-for-rest